BY AL KING
Anyone that has
had to experience the heart-drenching saga of being cheated on, the initial
reaction is—should I leave them or should I stay to work on this relationship.
Adrenaline is flowing, heartbeat is racing, disappointment, frustration and
anger fills the body. What’s crazy is, most of the time it brings two people
closer together because the person that was cheated on is usually insecure with
losing them to the person they cheated with. How does one find out? Someone
tells them, that someone is most likely a friend or the opposite sex just
looking to gain some leverage from the situation. Very few find out from
being their own detective or investigator, not saying it doesn’t happen but
most people are caught in “denial mode” so a confirmation has to really smack
them in the face for them to accept it. But once it hits the fan, that day will
forever go down in history. How you found out, where you were, what you were
doing and that churning in your stomach feel that hits you at that moment. The
person that does the cheating, they are usually unfazed by the hurt and pain
they’ve caused. They get to sleep at night without even thinking about this too
much while on the other end the one cheated on can barely sleep or eat.
Let me tell you
something…….. The person that is cheated on can take their mindset in two
places. First, they can become immensely bitter or second, they grow to be
cheaters themselves by using this incident as justification to NEVER trust
again. On the flip-side, there is no one to blame but yourself, the thing is we
are more inclined to take a chance with something that may not work as opposed
to something that is more likely to succeed. Basically, from the beginning your
partner may have shown you that they had no intentions on being faithful but
you chose to ignore it and move further into an emotional web. You have to look
at the cause and not necessarily the outcome it is just the way of life. If a
person cheats once they will cheat twice so if you think any different you’re
only fooling yourself. There is no rehabilitation for cheaters but them getting
a dose of their own medicine and once it’s done to them, which may be the only
time they feel any kind of emotion.
I’ve always felt that most Cheaters
are born and the rest are circumstantially converted through experience.
Whether you have been cheated on or have done the cheating, no one wins. The
dynamics are changed for the worse, leading to pain after pain. The person on
the [outside] that was used is rarely taken into account because they may have
been misled into believing they were involved with someone that was single.
Either way, the entire triangle is one that involves a bunch of lies. Cheating
breaks up homes, spirits, trust systems and is an unfortunate part of society.
Instead of hurting others, if you’re not happy work toward finding the exit
without damaging someone else in the process!